Bring the Fun Back in Your Relationship

file4311282697696By Dr. Saskia Coté, Relationship Editor

Do you ever wonder “where did the fun go?” or think,“We used to laugh together all the time, what happened?”

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just get up and bring the fun back?

Well guess what, we can!

Here are couple simple things you can do for you and your partner when you feel the need to bring a little bit excitement back in your day-to-day lives:

  1. Play pretend.  You read that that right, play pretend. Simply play games together, fantasize where you want to go, dream together. I remember the movie date night where they go out on a date to a restaurant.  Their game is to come up with things that other couples (who they are sitting around them) do together and how they are.  They are laughing and having so much fun with that game. It’s not really what other people are doing but it’s fun and it maybe something different for you that makes you laugh together.
  2. Turn off the TV and get coloring mandalas. Mandalas are a coloring meditation. It is a print of a pattern, like a flower, that you just sit and color in.  You don’t need to talk, but you can if you feel like it. Or you can do it with the children if you want to.  It is just a nice (in)activity that is calming and different. I used to have a basket with coloring pencils on the kitchen table and a stack of mandala’s I found online and printed out.  We would sit together and color.  Why not? You can find some here: and
  3. Set up a date together.  Sounds so simple, but it can take some planning and it can be quit costly. For some of us that means get a babysitter, pay a restaurant or go to a movie, and it can all add up to a lot of money. That being said, a date is still a great idea. It is about committing and spending the time together and being there just for each other. It doesn’t have to be expensive; you can be creative and come up with something. Like: it can be at home; you can cook a nice meal, and maybe bring the kids to a family member/friend.  Perhaps set up your tent in the backyard or friends backyard and sleep outside. Bring a flashlight and make little figures with your hands that make a shadow on the tent. Let your inner children come out and play together, doing all the things you liked to do when you were younger.

See in the end it’s not about how much money you spend, it’s about the time you commit to being together and being present with each other. Quality time and doing something different than you usually do. Agreeing to it together and then go do it. You might even find that you enjoy some things you didn’t know you would. Or find a new activity you both enjoy. You might try a few things that you don’t like. Either way, it creates new memories and movement when the energy is stagnant.

Money can really stop couples from going on a date together. If that is true for you, take this opportunity to be creative and see what else is you can do that is out of the ordinary for the two of you.

I hope I’ve given you ideas you can use and have fun with them

Much Love to you,



About the Author

Saskia headshot 2013rDr. Saskia Coté is a Massage Therapist, Teacher, Intuitive Relationship Coach and Best Selling Author.  She has been helping others for over 20 years. Saskia was called to the Holistic Health field after spending time at the Light Institute in Galisteo, NM. Her education continued back in the Netherlands studying Craniosacral with The Upledger Institute Europe in 1990. The next year Saskia moved from the Netherlands to Santa Fe, NM to study at the New Mexico Academy for Healing Arts. Having always enjoyed the educational aspects of her work, it is with that energy and intention that Saskia guides her classes, conducts her sessions and holds retreats. She is a certified Holistic Health Counselor since 2006, offering private consultations in the United States and the Netherlands. Continuing her own personal and professional development by graduating in April 2008 as a Doctor of C.O.R.E Education. Saskia has designed numerous continuing educating courses that draw on her expansive education and experience. She is currently the Director of Continuing Education at Cortiva Institute – Boston In keeping with her quest to constantly learn and challenge herself; she currently produces and hosts Alternatively Speaking at Valley Free Radio. Visit her website for more information:

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