How to embrace your power and move from living in Fear to living in Love

Embrace your power~ Today’s featured article is by Susan Goudy, tomorrow’s Power Up Living show guest and author of  The Journey From Fear To Love Is Shorter Than You Think. Join us here as Susan shares how to move away from old, unfulfilling paradigms and beliefs (and FEAR) towards a consciously created life you’ll love. ~KG 

 

By Susan Goudy

First off, recognize the truth, which is, you are perfect, beautiful, powerful, valued, unconditionally loved, deserving and worthy of having a wonderfully fantastic life !! Next, SLOW DOWN !!  We move too fast more often than not and we are justified but we’re driving ourselves right in the direction of fear.  I know it’s hard to slow down with all we have on our plates these days. I am the mother of four, an author and motivational speaker.  There are always things that NEED to be done.  Life is really about the journey and not the destination.  We know this but more often than not we don’t live this truth. I choose to enjoy the journey.

So, how do you slow down? Start by living a conscious life. “I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious behavior.” Wrote Henry David Thoreau. As you go through your day, pay attention, be awake and aware starting with what you are eating.  Diets don’t work but living a conscious life does. Pay attention to what you drink.  Make water your #1 choice of beverage. Pay attention to how you move or exercise.  Move your body every day. Pay attention to how you sleep or rest. Go to bed when you’re tired. Take a nap if you need it. Get some sunshine every day.  If you can’t get out in the sun then use a sunlamp or supplement with vitamin D. Pay attention to whether or not you are breathing. Yep, this is something we often forget to do, instead we hold our breath without realizing it – and then we wonder why we have a headache.

 

The number one thing to pay attention to is what you are feeling.  If you aren’t feeling good then you need to go back and think about what you’ve been thinking and change those thoughts. Gandhi said, “A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, He Becomes.”  There are many ways to quickly shift your thoughts from low vibrating thoughts to higher vibrating thoughts. I will give one example here that works no matter how busy you are. Find an anchoring thought. An anchoring thought is a thought that always makes you feel warm and fuzzy all over. You could think about a pet, a place you have visited and loved, the birth of your child.  Just pick a thought and use it whenever you feel yourself spiraling down and away from Love. Your anchoring thought should bring up a purely joyful feeling when you think about it. This anchoring thought then can be used as a quick tool to redirect you towards love, especially when you’re in a tight spot. Let’s use work as an example. Lots of distractions lead you to feel negative emotions. Focus on your anchoring thought—even if only for a moment. You will return to a better feeling place. The anchoring thought results in a powerful positive response turning you in the right direction in an instant. An anchoring thought is like carrying a magic bullet with you all of the time, wherever you are. Similar to carrying a gratitude stone or coin in your pocket, the anchoring thought just needs to be pulled out to remind you of all for which you are grateful.

When you realize your thoughts have been hanging around closer to fear, another thing you can do is to focus on all that you are in appreciation of in your life. This should help you turn your thoughts around pretty quickly too. There is always something to be in appreciation of even if you think there isn’t. For example the breath you just took. “Aware and awake equals clarity/Clarity equals power/Power equals movement/ Movement equals change/ Life is movement and change.” 

 

Stay present and focused. This means if you are exercising, focus on your exercise, if you are working, focus on your work, if you are doing the dishes, focus on doing the dishes. For example, if you are exercising, how does your body feel (?), focus on your breathing. Don’t be thinking about your bills or what to do for dinner or anything else other than your exercise.

The mirror technique is another tool to use when you have allowed yourself to spiral down in the direction of fear. This is technique you should do in privacy. If you are really feeling terrible and perhaps beating yourself down, then go in your bathroom where you have a mirror and some privacy and have your melt down while looking at yourself in the mirror. Scream and rant and rave at you all you want.  Beat yourself up, or whomever/whatever it is that you feel like beating up all while looking in the mirror.  I am pretty sure that after you see how ugly it looks and sounds you will want to start turning your self-talk around and head toward love.  Don’t leave until you do turn the self-talk around.  When your feel like you are heading in the direction of love with your thoughts then you can move on with the rest of your day.  By seeing yourself and hearing yourself, you will become accountable for your self-talk and thoughts very quickly. It’s always all about you!!

 

Try smarter not harder. My friend Rob Williams and developer of the Psych-K technique, illustrates this point with a story describing a fly trying desperately to escape through a closed window. This fly demonstrates problem focused behavior versus solution focused behavior. The fly is trying harder instead of smarter in the most basic way. The fly spends its energy on useless attempts to fly through the window. Even though it makes no progress, the fly continues to try harder and harder. There is no hope that the fly will survive taking the route it has chosen, and the struggle is part of the problem. The end result of this continued behavior is death. The door, however, is open across the room, and with little effort, the fly could escape to the outside and be free. “Why doesn’t the fly try another approach, something dramatically different?” With the goal of escaping, why would the fly continue until it dies, doing the same thing over and over again to no avail, banging its head over and over on the unopened window? Albert Einstein defines “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Now my question to you: Do you think that you are smarter than a fly, for crying out loud?

As you look back (for just a moment) at all of your “negative” experiences, notice how far you have come, what wisdom you have gained, and be grateful and thankful. If it weren’t for some of these not so great times, you would not have the crystal clear concept of what it is you do want in your life. You can now pat yourself on the back and appreciate yourself and all that you have accomplished. Have a party just because you are wonderful you. The important thing is that you continue to realize that in many situations, you have probably had great success when you tried some- thing drastically different.

 

Control what you can control and let go of what you can’t control. You certainly can’t control others.

Learn how to forgive and let go. One of the most helpful things you can allow into your life is forgiveness. If you truly forgive, an interfering issue can be let go of and you can move towards love once again. With forgiveness comes freedom. You free yourself. Most of us create our own prisons, and we don’t realize we alone hold the key to our freedom. Non-forgiveness stays with all of us 24/7, just like a negative thought. You can read specific steps to forgiveness in my book on page 47.

 

The most important thing to do in order to move quickly from living in a space of fear to living in a space of love is to love yourself first. You are number one and if you don’t love yourself first you can’t love anyone else. “I do not trust people who don’t love themselves and yet tell me, “I love you.”. There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.”—Maya Angelou

 

“Love builds up the broken wall and straightens the crooked path.  

Love keeps the stars in the firmament and imposes rhythm on the ocean tides. 

Each of us is created of it and I suspect each of us was created for it.” – Maya Angelou

Enjoy your life.  We are supposed to be having fun. Laugh as often as possible.  If you are enjoying your life, really enjoying it, then you will be healthy and well without doing anything else.  Illness and negative emotions cannot manifest in a healthy environment.

 

About the Author

Susan GoudySusan D. Wedgewood-Goudy, MSW, author of The Journey From Fear To Love Is Shorter Than You Thinkcertified in Neuro-Physical Reprogramming, B.E.S.T.(Bio Energetic Synchronization Technique) & Psych-K.

www.journeyfromfeartolove.com

About the author, Kelly

Kelly Galea is a creative, multi-passionate entrepreneur and luminary blessed with a unique combination of wit, grit, intellect and intuition. She helps you navigate the work-life maze of ever-shifting priorities and transform your life through holistic self-discovery techniques and immersive, fun and magical mini-quests. Working with Kelly will inspire you to unveil, express and celebrate your vital personality and lifestyle preferences to create a more harmonious life.

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